You know you’re caught in the rip current of people pleasing when you dread saying yes, but feel powerless to say no.”
God’s word is the best fire starter.
For God has not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind. 2 Timothy 1:7
Then do it! Pray. Ask. Seek. Once you know it’s a negative, follow through without apology.
Make time for the things God wants you to do...by freeing up those duties and responsibilities you are doing out of guilt, or self-serving, or because you were too afraid to say no.