Tuesday, June 3, 2014

Is there a cure for a Know-it-all?

Rom 1:22  “They pretended to know it all, but were illiterate regarding life.”

Have you ever met a “KNOW IT ALL?”

If you are a Mom, you may have even given birth to one.

Teens are gifted with this ability to know everything while acknowledging your lack of intellect.
Although, when it comes to math homework, I became useless around 2nd grade.

As a former columnist, I would spout my trivial theories and knowledge of many different subjects because I had gathered information. Harvesting facts is different from mastering, but recycling information is how the world goes. 

With my words, I could reflect a tone of superiority on subjects while having no clue of what I was talking about.

What am I an expert on? Surviving parenting…marriage…widowhood….natural disasters and all with my sense of humor!

An exaggerated misrepresentation can work on advice columns where I would assist you in buying a musical instrument, help you navigate the world of YouTube, or coping with teaching teens to drive… but once I delved into Christian themes, well, compared to God’s words, my small scraps of wisdom are born from personal experience.

Sharing my faith comes from being in the trenches. It gives me street “cred” in the Christian community; plus, I carry a no judgment button on my lapel because we are all a work-in-progress.
Some fellow church members, professing Christians are not so easygoing.…and that is where I do speak out, but in a “thou shalt not” voice.

Christians on Christian’s verbal violence should be non-existent.

As you walk along the faithful journey, you will always meet the know-it-alls, both in the Agnostic & Atheist world, other religions, and Christians who are so rigid and dogmatic in their stance.  They cannot give and take with anyone who is not like minded.  They lack a sense of humor as well.

Thankfully, Jesus Christ confronted Know-it-Alls (Pharisees & Sadducees) and encouraged Struggling Disciples (me!)and hung out with Sinners (the world).  Would we point an accusable finger in the face of Jesus? I think some would! Despite the fact that God is the ultimate Know-it-all!

How to confront a Know-it-all?


Have you ever tried to debate a teen? You can’t. Closed minded, they shut your words down before they can even enter their cranium.

Adult children who have wondered from their faith are still in a state of their own knowledge, believing their brain power is greater than yours. Their agenda is to hear you without “listening” and sometimes they try to steer us in their belief.  Correct our confusion.

Confrontation is never a good idea. You cannot change another’s strong opinion with strong opinion.

Besides extreme prayer, how can you get through to a smarty pants?

I’m still working on that.

  • We can pray, we can encourage, and we can become doers of the word. Talk the talk and walk the walk as they say. Emptying ourselves so that we can be filled with God’s Spirit and allowing Him to use us rather than us using Him.


Plus, we must find peace with the fact we cannot ‘fix’ our kids. While they are among us, we can teach, train, and maneuver them, but as adults we have lost that opportunity. Only God’s spirit can move on them to effect change.

  • Pray for Spiritual growth first, and then for physical, emotional, financial, and matrimonial love for your kids. Once on that path, it may take some harsh times to speak to them and as a parent that’s a hard process to watch. Whatever it takes God is a prayer of tough love. Ouch!


Guilty much? Oh, my goodness, everyday a slither of guilt from being a defective parent slips in and all I can do to counteract it is to give it to God, pray and as in the new Kid anthem, “Let it Go! Let it God!”

Not all know-it-alls are confident.

They come across that way, but internally, they seek knowledge to disprove their theory of life. They need a mentor that can direct their acquisition of how the world works into a proper and Godly direction.

Smart men impress smart wannabees!

Seek out intelligent and respected men such as Josh McDowell, who was an agnostic at college. His desire to disprove the Christian faith by writing a paper to examine the historical evidence resulted in his conversion to Christianity. He says, he found evidence for it, not against it.

The book The Case for aCreator by Lee Strobel is filled with experts and scholarly types defending their conclusions on intelligent design, evolution and origin of life theories.


But everyone has met a Christian Know-it-all! They are filled with their own knowledge and beliefs and focus primarily on rules and regulations while lacking in empathy and grace. I call them the Inappropriate Police or the Moral Police that will send a young kid packing from a church event for improper dress code. 

They disregard their souls for rule breaking.

Many bible study groups will have the non-conforming member or the devil’s advocate who enjoys debate and argument. This is not so appealing to the peacemakers of the world or a Mom who has enough conflict at home and was hoping for deep insights and wisdom quotes in a tranquil gathering of like minded Christians, plus great snacks! A good teacher can handle the flow of discussion and tone down the debaters.

Can a know-it-all change?


There is always hope. As long as your know-it-all is breathing, life has a way of dumbing us down as we age.

Another way is for them to have their own kids because it’s a proven fact the more kids you have the more brain cells you lose.

More and more, my own adult son calls not just to say hello, but to ask for advice. Somewhere along the way, my smartness has increased and the life adventure he is on has stifled his intellect.

Whether you have contact with a worldly Know-it-all or a Christian one, remember to agree to disagree and move on to more productive conversations. Secretly, pray, pray and pray some more.

Only God can cure that brain disorder!

Read Romans 1:17-22 in the Message Bible.

17: God's way of putting people right shows up in the acts of faith, confirming what Scripture has said all along: "The person in right standing before God by trusting him really lives." Ignoring God Leads to a Downward Spiral
18: But God's angry displeasure erupts as acts of human mistrust and wrongdoing and lying accumulate, as people try to put a shroud over truth.
19: But the basic reality of God is plain enough. Open your eyes and there it is!
20: By taking a long and thoughtful look at what God has created, people have always been able to see what their eyes as such can't see: eternal power, for instance, and the mystery of his divine being. So nobody has a good excuse.
21: What happened was this: People knew God perfectly well, but when they didn't treat him like God, refusing to worship him, they trivialized themselves into silliness and confusion so that there was neither sense nor direction left in their lives.

22: They pretended to know it all, but were illiterate regarding life.